From the discussion "Self-nurturing as the ultimate leadership".
-What's the difference between self-nurturing and selfishness?
-Self-nurturing gives yourself strength, but selfishness weakens you.
-Selfish people only think about, only use their energy to calculate their own benefit. But self-nurturing means you try to build yourself up, you try to strengthen yourself.
-But don't they both focus on yourself? Why is it sometimes bad and sometimes good?
-Selfish people think they are the best, and they seldom want to develop themselves and/or renew themselves.
-What's the difference between being in power and being a leader?
-They're all leaders, right? Different types of leaders.
-A leader is sb people are willing to follow out of their hearts, and a person in power is sb are forced to follow.
-Or follow out of fear.
-In the west, we have this saying.
"Power corrupts. Absolute power corrupts absolutely." So for me, the more power a leader has, the less I trust them.
-When you are in power, you are not a human being, you are just a tool of politics, you hardly make choices by yourself, because others will…you are just a tool of others.
-Things become more complicated.
-So Obama once was a human being.
-He still is, but he's severely constrained by his position of power
Chinese has a saying, when you change position, you have to change your brain.
-It's the same thing! You have to become less human. Or less humane.
-Humane means 人性。
So power and humane do not go together.
-I think, if a leader is afraid of something, or doesn't have enough self-confidence, then they will focus more on their own fear, instead of leading skills, leadership.
-And what happens then?
-Then they will do everything just in order to prove that, they just want to do anything to prove that they are good leaders. But no matter how hard they try, they just can't be good leaders. -Because they care too much about how other people will think of them. So they just focus on the things that they lack, they cannot pay attention to other subordinates.
-Or they cannot pay attention to how to solve problems, how to create a new situation.
-How to make good decisions, because their brain is just focusing on what they need.
-I think this is very important, because this is what the horse wants to teach us...
…how to become a good leader.